Thursday, February 12, 2009
How not to be "Mad at Dad"
"We love our husbands -- but we're mad that we spend more mental energy on the details of parenting. We're mad that having children has turned our lives upside down much more than theirs. We're mad that these guys, who can manage businesses or keep track of thousands of pieces of sports trivia, can be clueless when it comes to what our kids are eating and what supplies they need for school. And more than anything else, we're mad that they get more time to themselves than we do."
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"Many moms -- 44 percent -- are peeved that dads often don't notice what needs to be done around the house or with the kids (it jumps to 54 percent for moms with three-plus children). We hate that we have to tell them what needs to be done, that they can step over a basket of laundry on their way to find the remote control."
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"31% of moms say their husbands don't help with the chores -- in fact, they generate more."* * *
"One in five moms says her husband finds time for his own errands, like taking his shirts to the dry cleaner, but doesn't manage to fit in such family ones as going to the supermarket."* * *
"50% of moms tell us their husbands get more time for themselves."I can totally relate. Not to let husbands off the hook, but I've personally found that in my house, we fight less and have less resentment when we have more household help. For whatever reason (whether it's innate or we've conditioned them), husbands don't seem likely to change. So, rather than beating our heads against the wall and hoping they'll change, why not rely on someone else to help out. If you can afford it (and I'm not just talking financially, but also emotionally and mentally and marriage-wise), then by all means we should save ourselves the hassle, get more time for ourselves and decrease our anger at Dad!
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